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Sharing the love

Things we liked, or didn’t like, from around the internet this week.

Ms Naughty talks about what it takes to get censored on YouTube: beds, kissing, the “willingness to engage in sexual conduct”. That’s right, wanting to have sex is Bad.

Hexy at Feministe on sex work in New Zealand. And earlier, on the Swedish Model of sex-work. I know some people are, ideologically, staunch supporters of the Swedish Model. If you’re one of them, please read this, and get an idea of the effect it’s having in practice. I guess it’s refreshing in a way that one of its proponents has actually come right out and said:

So it is of minor importance that some women willingly prostitute themselves and are happy. This activity should not be made easier but rather more difficult with the help of the Act… there may be a few thousand prostitutes in Sweden who are thus sacrificed on the altar of gender equality.

“It’s always risky to attach politics, social status, or cultural affinity to a hairstyle—to endow it with too much meaning.” Then why, Ms Givhan, did you just spend nearly a thousand words doing just that?

From Sex-Positive Activism, Sex-Negative Education and the Spectre of Rape:

Sex-negative messages don’t keep people from having sex.  They keep people from having good sex.  They keep people from having pride in their sexuality, from sexual self-awareness.  They keep people from asking questions about sex, and communicating with their partners.  They discourage experimentation.  They blur the lines between consensual sex and rape by framing all sex as an undifferentiated mass of “bad.”

If you’ve ever questioned the reasons behind SlutWalk, please read this. (Trigger warning for sexual assault.) (H/T to Dee.)

Are you a woman who likes beer? Of course you’re not, there’s no such thing. So Coors has the product for you. It’s pink, and tastes nothing like beer.

The always brilliant Sady, on why feminists are allowed to fuck up too.

What kind of feminist are you? Slutty, angry or joyless? (Don’t click on this if you don’t want to be made angry. Though mostly, it’s annoying because it is so awfully lazy. Seriously, that’s all the kinds you could come up with? I myself (TS) like to think I am a joyless slut. The post itself is so egregiously hipster, I was expecting her to write, “Oh, I’m this other kind of feminist, but you won’t have heard of it yet.”

Following on from Emma’s post on Erasure, what it feels like when you’re not being hollered at. Which is also a good opportunity to pimp Hollaback Wellington’s launch.

From the Filament website, an article in search of the earliest pornography.

As for me (Deb), I’ve had a very busy week, thanks to moving house, and the fracking Rugby World Cup. That stadium of four million? Make that four million minus one.

FYI, although these posts come out under my name (Deb), we all put links here during the week, and we push the publish button sometime on Saturdays. I’ve been a bit slack this week, and I’ve only added one link…. Many thanks, Emma, Tallulah and Coley, for the great reading you have found this week.

4 responses to “Sharing the love

  1. Isabel July 30, 2011 at 4:59 pm

    That Sahkesville piece about harassment and visibility strikes a strong chord with me. I know I’ve more than once listened to a friend complain about catcalls or men who spend whole conversations looking at their breasts and wondered, guiltily, if that’s really worse than not being noticed at all.

    • tallulahspankhead July 30, 2011 at 6:45 pm

      It’s a really interesting conversation. It’s yet another example of how we Just Can’t Win, no matter how hard we try.

      We’re either made to feel like an object, or we feel bad for not being objectified.

      Having said that, as someone who is never going to be gracing the cover of Vogue, it interests me that I have had my fair share of cat calling and conversations with my knockers. W00t to have that privilege, I guess?

  2. Ben Cragg August 1, 2011 at 1:13 am

    Great links again, as always – the one by Sady in particular has possibly given me the guts to actually participate in discussion (here and in day-to-day life without being eternally afraid that I’m just going to get it “completely wrong” . . . and I think more discussion (when it’s actually discussion, not just pointless contradiction) is always a good thing 🙂 Not that I actually have much to add – I just think this is a fantastic blog, and most of my own opinions are normally put into clearer words here than I can muster!

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