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Sharing the love

Underage Sex Isn’t Necessarily Bad.

Let’s not get too hung up on the exact figures of underage sex. The important thing is that anyone having sex at any age should be making an informed choice, emotionally able to deal with it, protected from pregnancy and STIs, enthusiastically consenting, with no power-imbalances or exploitation, and also having a pleasurable experience.

Microsoft is publicly supporting a bill to legalise gay marriage in Washington. Why? Because discrimination is bad for business:

As other states recognize marriage equality, Washington’s employers are at a disadvantage if we cannot offer a similar, inclusive environment to our talented employees, our top recruits and their families. Employers in the technology sector face an unprecedented national and global competition for top talent. Despite progress made in recent years with domestic partnership rights, same-sex couples in Washington still hold a different status from their neighbors.

Most of the Lady Gardeners have given up on the Herald. Step up (and how!) Good Gravey.

The Radical Housewife lives in Minnesota. I’ve (Deb) been reading her blog for a few months now, ever since she left a comment on my blog, and I followed it back to her place. She doesn’t post often, but it’s always good. Here’s a post she has written on domestic violence (nb. could be triggering): Why doesn’t she leave? Only she knows.. I particularly like this point she makes.

If you aren’t sure about how to react to a person’s story about domestic violence, don’t judge. Listen. Answers will reveal themselves, one story at a time.

Annanonymous wonders how she ended up on the mailing list for the John Paul II centre for life.

In lieu of pretty shoes this week….OUCH.

3 responses to “Sharing the love

  1. Good Gravey January 28, 2012 at 5:41 pm

    Thanks heaps, Deb. With regard to the domestic violence, I really like the “Ange” ad on at the moment (although it makes me cry every time).

    I like the way it demonstrates how people going through domestic violence have all these people around them, but no real contact. And the thing that really gets me is when Ange is asked “Are you OK?” you can see the dam begin to crumble – but in a good way. Hell, even thinking about it now makes me teary.

    I like how it demonstrates that the simple act of reaching out to someone, to let them know you are there and ready to listen, changes the world.

    But the issue of leaving – it also differs from culture to culture. A good online friend of mine at http://aamjanata.com/ was a victim of domestic violence. Emotional, verbal but not (yet) physical. So many people were telling her to “just leave”. But here is a woman, in India, with a young child, and her means of income was a business tying her to her husband. “Just leaving” was never an option.

    It is hard enough for a woman in India let alone a single woman with a child. I know there are prejudices in our own privileged society, but over there … the weight of millennia are against her.

    But she found her path. As well as listening and understanding, it is so important to let people in domestic violence that they have an ally, no matter what. I was honoured to be Vidyut’s ally.

  2. Tansy January 29, 2012 at 8:20 pm

    Um, the link to Annanonymous links to the Radical Housewife instead. Can that be fixed, please?

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