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Things we liked, or didn’t like, from around the internet this week.

Questioning Manhood on the Net:

It’s well past time that we as a society really deconstructed our concept of maleness and what it means… Men remained locked in what Dr Charlie Glickman calls the Masculinity Box. Guys are expected to act and think in very rigid ways and conform to very distinct ideas of “manliness”. Step outside the box (be gay, sensitive, emotional, weak) and you will be punished by both men and women

Feminists have been talking about fatness for a long time. Here’s an essay on a feminist classic: Fat is a feminist issue.

In Australia, the mainstream media seems to have noticed that Gail Dines is full of shit.

Dines appears to regard the evidence as a distraction from the truth she holds dear, irrespective of any “study, argument or theory”. In my view, Dines has shown that she cannot be trusted by readers to honestly and accurately represent the truth about what she writes.

Yet another study shows that homophobic people are more likely to have experienced same-sex attraction.

Love Stinks: Violet Blue on the pheremone myth. (Site NSFW.)

From AlterNet, the differences between the US and countries that are less sexually-repressed.

Over at FreeThoughtBlogs, Taslima Nasrin argued for the abolition of sex slavery. It’s an interesting piece, but along the way she makes some claims about prostitution like this one.

Lie5. Women choose to enter prostitution.

Truth5. Prostitution is not an acceptable job for women. They are forced to enter prostitution. Prostitution is an abusive institution and women stay poor in prostitution. It is not a vocation choice, it is human rights abuse.

A couple of the other women blogging at FreeThoughtBlogs have responded. Greta Christina argues that prostitution is not sex slavery, pointing out that we must not erase sex workers own accounts of how they approach their work. Natalie Reed, in But Seriously, Prostitution is not Sex Slavery, talks about autonomy, and being free to make your own choices, no matter how odd those choices might look to other people. I (Deb) think that all three pieces are worth reading, as is Taslima Nasrin’s reply: Do women really ‘choose’ to be prostitutes? I’m very sympathetic to the pieces by Greta Christina and Natalie Reed, no doubt because the ideas in them are very much like things that Tallulah and Emma have talked about from time to time.

And I’m (Deb) quoted in the local paper today, on the affordability of paid parental leave. The reporter kindly promoted me to professor, which is an exaggeration, but she also described me as “a lecturer in accountancy at Massey University, working mother and a feminist blogger.” That about sums it up.

On with the day’s work then. I think I need coffee for that. Preferably in a pretty cup.

Pretty Coffee

This image shamelessly “borrowed” from a blog post titled “Pretty Coffee Cups” at La Dolce Vite (di Cape Town).

3 responses to “Sharing the love

  1. Denny April 14, 2012 at 4:01 pm

    I read the article in which you were quoted on the affordability of paid parental leave. I agree with your comments entirely. My own children are considering parenthood, so i have a stake in this debate. I am particularly keen that issues such as the benefits of bonding are discussed along with affordability. I am appalled that Bill English is attempting to close down that debate. I hope more people like you stand up and ask for public discussion …

  2. BNN April 15, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    I thought I was alone among feminists for finding Gail Dines’ work conservative, heterosexist and deeply problematic. I’m so relieved to learn that is not the case. I have concerns with the way a lot of mainstream het porn represents sex and gender, and I worry that young people might be using porn as a substitute for sex ed. But the idea that all porn is bad and makes men rape women is just plain bad scholarship.

  3. MaryMaryMina April 17, 2012 at 10:38 pm

    It will be interesting to see how Taslina Nasreen deals with being questioned the evidence for her clearly unexamined radical feminist ideology. She has riled a lot of people with her absolute and unevidenced statements, assumptions about her opponents thoughts and motivations, and by calling opposing viewpoints “lies” rather than ‘wrong’.

    Ironically, that is the form of argument that is very popular with many of the bloggers and commenters on FTB, and had she targetted an out-group rather than a group that includes several of the FTB bloggers there would have been far more praise and far less defence of those criticised, even though the problem is with the quality of her arguments, lack evidence supplied, and her belief that you can “mind read” or ‘explain’ the ‘bad’ motivations of broad swathes of her opponents then dismiss them without addressing their arguments, all of which are equally illogical regardless of the target.

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