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The Lady Gardeners have not been in good form this last week. We’ve all been…. busy, with one thing and another. But we’ve still found some weekend reading for you: things we liked, or didn’t like, from around the internet this week.

Clarisse Thorn ponders ideas of masculinity and male dominance and talks to male Doms about it.

All a dominant man has to do is read, listen, open up and understand. One thing I learned was that my fears about reenforcing our messed-up society were shared by women into kink… but also that my ways of approaching the topic, as ‘oh, we’re so controlled by society!’ were themselves pushing too much agency out of women’s choices.

The Pervocracy on the restrictions of labels.

I don’t think words like “straight” and “gay” and such are completely useless.  But they’re only descriptions.  If you’re a man and everyone you’ve felt attracted to has been female, eh, you might as well call yourself “straight”?  But that doesn’t “make” you straight.  It doesn’t tell you anything about which women you’ll be attracted to, or give you a guarantee you’ll never be attracted to any men, and it sure as hell doesn’t mean that you “should” be attracted to women.

At FreeThoughtBlogs, Greta Christina has sent up an extraordinary comment thread, solely for sex workers to tell their stories of sex work. So far, there are over ninety comments. It is simply not acceptable, in my (Emma’s) opinion, to speak for or about sex workers when they can so freely speak themselves. (My – Deb’s – opinion too. Also, more than Lady Gardener has recommended this link)

Nasreen and I had a private email conversation about this. I’m not at liberty to disclose her side of that conversation. But I will tell you that I asked her, repeatedly, to put up a post on her blog asking sex workers what their actual experience was working in the sex industry — so she could hear for herself the tremendous variety of experiences that prostitutes and other sex workers have, and so she could take those experiences into account when she considers the questions of how abuses in the industry should be handled.

As of this writing, she has yet to do this.

So I’m going to do it myself.

This next link is Not Safe For Work.

White Man’s D!#k with Susan Sarandon

More truly astounding and astonishing and we-would-never-have-guessed-that research reported in The Economist: Men who don’t like doing housework don’t do it, but women just do it whether they like it or not.

We’re still talking about The Hunger Games in my (Deb’s) house. Over at Hoyden about Town, FuckPoliteness has great rant about the books and the movie.

Nothing pretty, this week, I’m sorry (Deb). I haven’t had time to hunt something out. But should you have something pretty that you want to share, please, put the link in comments, and I’ll add it to the post. And you should feel free to add your own links in comments anyway, and to treat this as an open thread.

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