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Things we liked, or didn’t like, from around the internet this week.

A beautiful reflection on privilege, from dear FoTLG Jackie: I should be so lucky.

Laurie Penny and Martin Robbins discuss feminism and men.

It’s no fucking wonder that the rates of sexual assault are where they are. On the one hand you have women who are told sexuality is the most important thing they can have/wield. On the other, men raised to cede control to their penises and told their value is measured in their ability to dominate their surroundings.

Google’s auto-complete function will give you helpful suggestions if you search for ‘gay’, ‘lesbian’, or ‘transsexual’. But not ‘bisexual’.

Google says Instant Search “helps you formulate a better search term by providing instant feedback”. If that’s the case, why would Google block the nearly 12 million results for the terms bisexual suicide from appearing instantly? As a bisexual advocate, that’s a pretty important search term for me since the 2011 Bisexual Invisibility Report stated “One in two bi women and one in three bi men have attempted or seriously considered suicide.

Manliness, Relationships and Erections: Clarisse Thorn kicks off a really interesting and poignant discussion about coping with erectile function (not “dysfunction”: occasional loss of or failure to get erections is perfectly normal) in relationships, and the guilt, awkwardness and insecurity it can bring.

Do go and read Emma’s post at Public Address, on the weasel language that pollies are using now that Louisa Wall’s Marriage Equality Bill has been drawn out of the ballot: The Upfront Guides: The Weasel Translator.

Something pretty, or at least fun: Skeptical Mothering’s tips for breastfeeding in public.

Tips for Nursing in Public

Text version:

1. Plan ahead. If you’re planning to visit someplace that might attract new mothers, such as a park or a discount store, try to time your visit so that you’re less likely to be there at the same time as a nursing mother. Midnight is good.

2. Practice in front of a mirror. At first, your shock may show plainly on your face, so try sitting in front of a mirror and picturing a nursing mother. Keep trying until your expression stays neutral. You can also try having a friend or your spouse watch you and provide helpful comments.

3. Dress appropriately. Try wearing a scarf or a top that has a hood. That way, if you encounter a nursing mother, it’s simple to pull the fabric up over your eyes, or to pull the hood forward to act as blinders so you can easily avert your eyes and not suffer any peripheral vision of a nursing baby.

4. Be discreet. Avoid calling attention to yourself, and there will be no problem. If you’re ostentatious about your disapproval, you’re just inviting a confrontation.

5. Find a private place. If you absolutely can’t avoid voicing your discomfort with public nursing, there are plenty of appropriate places. Go to the nearest changing room and let out your feelings. Almost every establishment has convenient public bathrooms where you can have total seclusion while you vent. If all else fails, go out to your car – it’s a little inconvenient, but well worth it to avoid making a scene.

By following these simple steps, you can make sure that public nursing never leads to ugly confrontations or public relations battles, and everyone will be much happier.

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