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Sharing the love

Things we liked, or didn’t like, from around the internet this week:

Via Atheist Pinko Sluts, a refreshingly sane article on the myth of sex addiction:

In thirty-one years as a sex therapist, marriage counselor, and psychotherapist, I’ve never seen sex addiction. I’ve heard about virtually every sexual variation, obsession, fantasy, trauma, and involvement with sex workers, but I’ve never seen sex addiction.

From Penguin Unearthed, The efficient frontier of shoes

All bodies are beautiful. Right?

Haters gonna hate. Here’s how not to care.

On gendered language and talking about sexual violence.

Fat acceptance and the problem of health.

In the Sydney Morning Herald today: The great sex swindle: “There is little evidence of real differences between the male and female brains…”

Something extraordinary which a friend of Deb’s shared on Facebook – a murmuration of starlings.

‘Though perhaps it wouldn’t seem quite so beautiful if it didn’t have Pachelbel’s Canon playing in the background. What if it had creepy music from a horror movie instead?

And that’s it from me (Deb). I’m signing off from The Lady Garden, for work related reasons. Many thanks for Emma and Tallulah and Coley for their company: I’ve loved working with you. Also drinking with you from time to time. Ka kite ano.

3 responses to “Sharing the love

  1. Msconduct February 2, 2013 at 4:52 pm

    Thank you for all the links, Deb! Sad to see you go.

    The haters article crystallises a problem I have with this issue that I don’t think I’ve been able to see as clearly previously. Op-Ed founder Katie Orenstein says:

    “My point is not that we should speak up at any cost, but rather that we can’t allow fear of negative feedback to determine what kind of voice we have in the world.”

    Well, yes, I know what she means. It’s important that women have a voice in the online world and therefore they need a strategy to deal with the inevitable haters. But reading this, it struck me that telling women that they shouldn’t let their fear stop them from expressing an opinion online is like telling women about all the strategies they should engage in to avoid sexual assault. Why is it up to women to deal with the fallout of misogynist attacks? Why is it framed as a woman being ruled by fear (i.e. cowardice) if she decides not to put herself through that? Shouldn’t we be placing the blame where it belongs?

  2. MJ February 2, 2013 at 5:42 pm


    /articulate feminist analysis

    Very sorry to see you go, Deb! ❤

  3. notbigondignity February 16, 2013 at 9:18 pm

    Sorry to see you go Deb. Have enjoyed your contributions!

    also if someone could redo that murmuration video with some scary music in the background I would be a happy happy person

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